At the beginning of July, I turned 22 years old. Now, as we all know, young adults make the best decisions and are the font of all knowledge (please note the sarcasm in that, I am very aware that we are just stumbling blindly through this thing called ‘adult life’). In my 22 years of being on this earth, I have picked up a few tricks and words of advice. And, having not written a blog post in months, I thought I’d share them with you.


  1. When making a toastie or a grilled cheese sandwich, butter the outsides of the bread too. ‘But Rosie’ I hear you cry, ‘isn’t that woefully unhealthy and messy?’ 1) You are making a grilled cheese sandwich, let’s not talk about being healthy, and 2) the messiness is worth it for the pure crunchy joy it will bring, let me tell you.
  2. The mantra ‘you can’t love anyone else until you learn to love yourself’ is a complete load of BOLLOCKS (sorry for the swearing Mum). I may struggle with body confidence and knowing my own worth, but that doesn’t mean I am incapable of loving someone else. It’s a negative phrase that causes so much damage to those who do not love themselves. I shouldn’t be punished for the inner journey I am currently going through.
  3. Sleep is the best healer, for illnesses, negative situations, and emotions. That, and time. Oh, and Orange Lucozade.
  4. Don’t be afraid to take photographs. I see a lot of negative connotations online about people taking photos at events or on holiday or with the family. ‘Just enjoy the moment’. I can enjoy the moment and document it through my photographs and then enjoy the moment again when I look at the photo, thank you very MUCH.
  5. Sometimes, it’s okay to not be able to let things go. It’s fine to be on a personal journey with negative emotions and situations. I used to be ashamed of the way old situations would come back and haunt me, the way they would affect my mood, my actions, my interactions with other people. I would get upset at myself for my mind bringing up something I want to forget. Sometimes, it’s hard to forget negative situations, and that’s okay. Your feelings are always valid.
  6. Stretch marks are NORMAL. SURPRISE. They are a sign of growth, not mentally, but physically. As in, you have grown because it is a normal thing for humans to do. Yes, some people may get them because they’ve lost or put on weight (again, that’s normal). But stretch marks come from anything and everything – building muscle, pushing out a baby, an injury (all normal and valid). I’ve got stretch marks from growing, and putting on and losing weight. I also have stretch marks from my belly bloating so darn much when I eat cheese (thank you, lactose intolerance)
  7. Council tax is the bane of my life and I have a feeling it will be for many years to come.
  8. Everyone is faking it ’til they make it, especially people online. I’ll even take myself for example. Nice picture of me having wine at dinner? Taken three weeks ago, on my birthday, when I had severe gastroenteritis. Nice picture of me in a bikini on a boat? One of hundreds my partner had to take until I chose the one least like my real life body. Nice picture of me dressed up for a night out? I can guarantee that would have been taken months ago, I only go on nights out three times a year now, it takes me months to get over a hangover. But, I need to give out those Insta vibes of youthful joy (#me #outout #ASOSasseenonme #ootd #drinks #nightout #22)
  9. White vinegar is the saviour of my flat when it comes to cleaning. Limescale in the kettle? White vinegar it. Blocked sink? White vinegar it. Water stains in the bath? WHITE VINEGAR IT.
  10. The stereotype that anti-depressants put you in a zombie life state is exactly that; a stereotype and BOLLOCKS (sorry for swearing again, Mum). Please don’t ridicule something that has saved and improved my life, and thousands upon thousands of others lives.
  11. Pink gin mixed with Rose wine, with a hint of tonic is a delightful and dangerous mix. 10/10 would recommend.
  12. Yoga isn’t just for leggy, super thin, Instagram models. And it’s not just about standing on one hand, and putting your leg over your head like you have no joints. It’s for everyone, including slightly chubby, unfit ladies with shoulder issues that pop like a bowl of Rice Krispies like me. It’s about stretching, relaxing, and becoming healthy. And DAMN does it build up a sweat. For people who are struggling to find their exercise, I’d recommend trying yoga (try Yoga with Adrienne on YouTube, she’s great).
  13. Treat yo’ self should not be a mantra or a way of life. My bank account has made that very clear.
  14. Be proud of hustling. Be proud of the hard work that you do, be proud that you go that extra mile. However, make sure to rest and relax. And be proud of that too.
  15. This one is incredibly obvious but it’s one that I have been avoiding all my life; from the early years of blaming my asthma so I can skip PE, to now, blaming my glasses for not going running in the rain. It turns out, exercise does help with mental health. Whhhaaaaat? It’s not like I’ve been taught this for years and I’ve just chosen to ignore it because I lack motivation… Honestly, when I am having a low moment, an anxious day, or even an episode, if I can manage to do some form of exercise, I feel so much better afterwards. I know the getting up and going part is ridiculously hard, but I feel so much better for it after.
  16. “There must be quite a few things a hot bath won’t cure, but I don’t know many of them. Whenever I’m sad I’m going to die, or so nervous I can’t sleep, or in love with somebody I won’t be seeing for a week, I slump down just so far and then I say: “I’ll go take a hot bath.” – Sylvia Plath
  17. It’s your duty to use your privilege. Use your social standing to amplify the voices of others and to give them the microphone. Notice when you are benefiting from privilege, and make an active stance to be aware of that. If we all did that, the world would be a much better place.
  18. Lush’s body moisturiser ‘Sleepy’ is a saviour if you struggle to sleep. Lather it all over your shoulders and neck, breath in that lavender and ylang ylang, and doze off into those pillows. It worked better for me than prescribed sleeping pills ever did.
  19. Talk about it. Normalise it. Tweet it. Sing about it. Shout about it. Make things about it. Break the stigma that mental illness is an unacceptable topic that needs to be gently discussed in hush hush tones.
  20. Burning out should not be glorified the way it is. I feel hypocritical even writing this, as I am Queen of the Burn Out, Lady of the Land of Over Doing, Princess of the Realm of Too Many Projects. When I was doing my A-Levels, I would study all day at school, study at home, have dinner, study some more until my grandparents or parents would force me to clear up for bed. Then I’d read study books in bed. The same happened in university, but there were no guardians to tell me to stop. There was just me, going to lectures, studying, working three jobs, being in societies, trying to balance a social life. After what feels like 1001 burn outs and crashes, I’ve realised this is not good. I’m still learning to stop and take time for myself and to take a breather, but I’m getting there. And it’s the best decision I’ve ever made.
  21. Books are a gift. I fell out of love with reading in University, as it was something I had to do for my book based degree. I read because I had to. Now, I have fallen in love with books and reading all over again. It’s become my safe place, my joy, what I look forward to at the end of the day. What a
  22. Dear men on the street, and in government – it’s my body, my rules, so hands off, you creeps.

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